tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post2102464316006389174..comments2023-05-04T05:43:36.795-07:00Comments on Journey Through Thyroidlessness, Workplace Injury & Chronic Pain: "IN SICKNESS & IN HEALTH"...OR JUST IN SICKNESS?lost butterflyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15512822541463479068noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-61447358750772540472009-06-29T14:19:39.456-07:002009-06-29T14:19:39.456-07:00I have been the sick one and my SO has been a hero...I have been the sick one and my SO has been a heroic caretaker. I always thought I'd rather be the sick one suffering than the well one watching helplessly. It's great that you have such empathy for your SO. I also think that illness can force open profound ways of communicating and being together that well couples might never find. I wish you both peace.<br /><br />I blog about couples and illness - you might find some useful post and comments on my site.Barbara K.http://www.insicknessinhealth.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-2794370662286177642009-06-26T09:08:44.069-07:002009-06-26T09:08:44.069-07:00dear Anonymous-Thank you so much for taking the ti...dear Anonymous-Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I truly appreciate it and hope you will visit often! I am doing every thing I can to reach acceptance..tough sometimes though.<br />Thanks again,<br />JeannetteJeannettehttp://missingmythyroid.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-115589372428509872009-06-26T09:05:47.783-07:002009-06-26T09:05:47.783-07:00Cassandra-Thank you for such a sweet comment-you a...Cassandra-Thank you for such a sweet comment-you are a beautiful and kind young lady! Greg and I will be ok-it is just tough right now with all the stress and the increased responsibility put upon him. Things will work themselves out, they always do.<br /><br />Thanks again sweetie,<br />Love always-JeannetteXX00Jeannettehttp://missingmythyroid.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-86536238326108351122009-06-24T09:53:03.448-07:002009-06-24T09:53:03.448-07:00I'm not an expert, not a caregiver, and have n...I'm not an expert, not a caregiver, and have not been injured on the job. That being said, I think first and foremost of importance would definitely be some counseling, both couples and individual. I understand guilt and how it can bring you to the absolute bottom. I have also learned through the years how to release the guilt and forgive, even myself. This seems to be the first step in a positive forward direction. The second would be acceptance of your situation. If there is no way to change it, (medically), you do need to accept it, learn from it, and move forward with a positive outlook. Again, counseling will help address this as well. If you can find a way to get rid of the guilt and make a choice to accept, your life will surely change for the better in many ways. I hope you are not offended, as that is not my intention. My purest intention is given with love and hope for a brighter tomorrow. You obviously have a very strong, loving marriage, and it's definitely worth not giving up but finding a way for you both to cope better and allow the marriage to grow even stronger. Best of luck to you. I look forward to following your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-35616804493719206892009-06-24T08:18:19.272-07:002009-06-24T08:18:19.272-07:00Aunt Jeannette,
I know my Uncle loves you very ve...Aunt Jeannette, <br />I know my Uncle loves you very very much - and I don't think he would ever just up an leave you.<br />On the fact about your relationship "makes people sick" - you guys are so perfect for each other that everyone else is just jealous. Every one can see how much you both mean to each other and how much you both love each other. I would hate to think that you don't want him by your side any longer and that he wouldn't wand the same thing. I know times are tough - but I also know that your love is incredibly strong and I've always wished to have love like that. I know you guys will pull through. <br /><br />Love you both very very much. <br />xoxo - CassCassandranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-29921327339471506842009-06-21T10:37:21.325-07:002009-06-21T10:37:21.325-07:00You know, it does take a huge toll on a marriage. ...You know, it does take a huge toll on a marriage. Huge. We tried couples therapy, and that was sort of helpful, but what we realized is more helpful is if we both go to individual counseling to work through things that are bothering us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-90403805846027602092009-06-17T08:59:48.610-07:002009-06-17T08:59:48.610-07:00I followed your link from Twitter and then started...I followed your link from Twitter and then started reading... loved what I saw. Then saw the II Week button! Thank you! I am Lisa, the founder of II Week and I'm hoping you'll consider allowing me to post the post on marriage on our II Week web site as a guest blogger. I also saw you are trying to increase your writing exposure. If you have anything you'd like to submit, like an article to hopekeepersmagazine.com or as a guest post, etc. I'd be interested. Thanks so much! To submit your blog there are a few other things we need, so just cut and paste it here<br />http://ow.ly/6Otd<br /><br />Thanks so much!Lisahttp://www.invisibleillnessweek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-47485646579896617182009-06-17T08:49:11.256-07:002009-06-17T08:49:11.256-07:00Thank you so much everyone for the kind comments. ...Thank you so much everyone for the kind comments. It seems I am not alone in my situation. It is beyond wonderful to have a caring spouse especially when one has a chronic illness. Chronic illness is terribly stressful on the marriage but I suppose that is what it is all about, standing by each other through good times and bad. Thanks again for the great comments.<br /><br />Jlost butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15512822541463479068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-76374912289439488622009-06-16T21:56:46.813-07:002009-06-16T21:56:46.813-07:00Thanks for visiting my blog. While neither my husb...Thanks for visiting my blog. While neither my husband or I have a chronic illness, we have gone through couples counseling during our infertility (and premature birth of our daughters). It was so amazingly helpful. It is a great place to start. Your husband might find some resources for how to cope. <br /><br />It sounds like you have a great marriage and that it is worth saving. Best of luck!Kelly Dhttp://www.twinpeas.com/wordpressnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-25724867478103286352009-06-15T17:45:42.231-07:002009-06-15T17:45:42.231-07:00interesting thoughts on a tough subject. Marriage ...interesting thoughts on a tough subject. Marriage is definitely a two way street and it sounds like you must be worth the effort for him! I have a spouse with cancer so I understand the "other" side of things...trust me it's hard to be supportive 24/7 but at the end of the day what it boils down to is that I love him and I want to know that I was the best partner to him that I could have been...it really is that simple. Thankfully my husband is doing well right now...but I am a nurse so I know that things can change quickly. I try my hardest to make the best of the time I have with him.<br /><br />http://sherdenise.wordpress.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-14041010580257442322009-06-15T16:43:43.398-07:002009-06-15T16:43:43.398-07:00I met my SO after I had gotten sick, so he knew ab...I met my SO after I had gotten sick, so he knew about the In sickness part before we got together.. He also tried to do everything for me & is always trying to think of things that would make things easier on me.. But unfortunately, that stresses him out & he's getting sick.. (he's Dx'd with Type II diabetes last yr)<br /><br />I so empathize with your guilt.. he does all this for me, yet I can't do a heck of alot, comparatively speaking, for him.. I find that frustrating.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11034813101064366817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558223186713255156.post-5830374776955649752009-06-15T15:27:14.485-07:002009-06-15T15:27:14.485-07:00I got sick 2 months after marrying my husband. I a...I got sick 2 months after marrying my husband. I always tell him he got ripped off... but you know something, the man has never once complained. I believe (through being taught by my hubby) that some people feel their purpose in life is to be supportive to someone else and we are given the people we need right when we need them. I understand your thought and feelings too, as I've felt them myself. It IS unfair, fortunately for me he doesn't see it the same way. I guess we make up for it in other ways that makes them stay and keep loving us without another thought. ;-)<br />*hugs* Great story JBev Wallacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00863586523472465246noreply@blogger.com